Thank you for this, Zoe. I'm 62, had three sisters and three daughters, was raised Catholic, and have spent an enormous amount of emotional energy feeling guilty for "thought sins", and trying to avoid being a "creeper". I lived in Italy for a few years and envied men who could show their attraction so joyfully, and the women who were delighted with the attention. I wish I had been able to enjoy the playful behavior that Adrienne describes below. Such a loss for both genders.