"We’re all secularists about having kids, even ardent pro-natalists who see reproduction as a duty or close to it, because we’re all keenly aware that you can choose to forego childbearing. We’ve moved, you might say, from a society where reproduction as a default part of adult life is unchallenged and indeed, unproblematic, to one in which it is understood to be one option among others, and frequently not the easiest to embrace."