"That she is unique for thinking that motherhood is spiritually and intellectually stimulating, and that people judge her for this belief. The reality is that they judge her for the same reason they judge all mothers: Because she is a mother, and because we love to pretend that motherhood is easy and requires no intelligence." WOW. Yes! Yes to everything you said.

So many of us white women have this knee-jerk impulse to exceptionalize ourselves. "I'm not like those other mothers who complain; I'm one of the good ones" sounds so similar to "But I'm a good white woman! I'm not like the others!" We don't understand how to find strength in the insights we gain from understanding that we are part of a system. And think that we will find strength/safety in being exceptional. It's interesting.