Perhaps you are right, maybe I'm not willing to entertain a certain level of violence beyond what I consider a reasonable defensive threshold, because I think some human costs are too high, and their outcomes are too uncertain, too immoral, and too unlikely to produce the results I'd like to see. But it seems we both agree that violence will come from those who oppose their power being challenged either way.

I have a little awareness of Lacan (and Fanon, Fromm, and Žižek, who I've read and seemed to have some association with Freudo-Marxism.) I'll add that book to my reading list, but I'm afraid it may be a little while before I get to it.