You're right: men, too, can opt out.

I think the biggest difference is that if I get labeled a slut, it won't generally cost me my livelihood. I can weather derision from the Snotty Women's Club that haven't realized cliques were over in high school. If I lose a friend or a work relationship over it, well, they probably weren't a very good person for me to count on anyway.

In my experience, come to think of it, I hit that moment ironically when I was older and settled down, over a petty software-related dispute. A petulant person got a contact at a trade publication to write a hit piece on me, and it got published. I won't get into the specifics, but allegations about my sex life made a prominent showing. It didn't feel too good to read it, but then I sat up late with a loved one and laughed. When folks at my workplace saw it, they were mostly concerned for my well-being. It made for a stressful week, and a bit of social media vitriol aimed in my direction, but life moved on, and it didn't hurt my career.

If a man is labeled a sexual predator, he's likely to not only lose his job, but become un-hireable for the foreseeable future. This sometimes happens when the social media mob strikes, even if there is no evidence of actual wrongdoing.

There's a *big* difference between dealing with other's low opinions and losing one's ability to put a roof overhead and food on the table.