Everyone deserves to be able to go to work and not get harassed, but on the stipulation that we don't use the feminist definition "I was uncomfortable - too uncomfortable to tell him."

When I was 20 years old, 5' tall & 100 lbs, I was at work, standing at a counter, wrapping items for shipment. A married male coworker sidled up to me and put his hand on my butt. Without breaking the rhythm of my work or looking at him, I said in a very low voice, "Do that again and I will rip your arm out by the roots."

Women used to be taught to say something if a coworker said something they didn't like and most guys would not persist in clearly unwanted attention. We also learned the game of come hither-go away. I still think most guys wouldn't persist in clearly unwanted attention. The problem is that the word no can be part of a negotiation process. Maybe Friday isn't good because her sister is in town, or she gets attracted later. If the guy can't have more than one shot, that's a bit extreme, too. Nuance is dead.

Now that office romance is beyond frowned upon, office friendships, even among same-sex coworkers are being discouraged by management.