Hi Peter, your story reminded me of this: “rather than stable and predetermined, racial identities can shift across contexts and even within specific interactions. Analyzing these raciolinguistic practices allows us to imagine the possibilities for destabilizing hegemonic and oppressive processes of racial categorization” H. Samy Alim, John R. Rickford, and Arnetha F. Ball (2016) Raciolinguistics: How Language Shapes Our Ideas About Race https://oxford.universitypressscholarship.com/view/10.1093/acprof:oso/9780190625696.001.0001/acprof-9780190625696-chapter-2

P.s: ¡Saludos a tu novia, mi paisana!