I have two daughters...I don't think this is limited to hiring and achievement. Simple dating is a nightmare. My eldest was asked out by one of the Arab kids in one of her college courses (Saudi, if I remember correctly). He was nice enough, she just had no interest in dating him. She worried she was racist for declining. A few years later, my youngest was asked out by a black kid who was absolutely obnoxious in one of her college classes. She settled on a cup of coffee for fear of seeming racist, but hated every moment. She was terrified he'd ask her on a real date and she'd be racist for declining. I asked her if she accepted based on perceived racism, what would be her response if her date wanted to "do things" and she didn't? I told her this has to do with basic human attraction and interaction, nothing to do with race. She got the point and declined when he did ask. Tough world for them to navigate among such silliness.