This is one area where 'systemic oppression of women' might actually be a valid complaint.

All society's are gynocentric because that is how we ensure the survival of the species (women and children get priority access to resources and protection - and at men's expense). But after the industrial/ technological revolutions women's basic protection and access to resources has been taken care of (supermarkets, shopping malls, paved streets, electricity, indoor plumbing, central heating etc). But the gynocentric hard wiring is still present in both men and women, and so we've just continued to add more things to the list of things to give to women...... beyond food and shelter we now supply lifestyles, career pathways, (unnecessary) education, identities and accommodations that define women as children (and perhaps even disabled children at that).

The more we cater to women's feelings, aspirations and fantasies ... the more we strip women of any sense of identity, value and purpose as women. We even tell women it is OK to hand over your baby to strangers every day so you can pursue a more fulfilling lifestyle. The idea that women have any social responsibility at all (any unique and vital role in society) has been dropped in order to free women of that burden - the burden of being a necessary part of society.

The equivalent for men would be telling men they can walk away from power stations and road maintenance and construction, and let the infrastructure and global supply chain fall apart, in order to pursue more satisfying careers and lifestyles. Not only would this be catastrophic for society (as catastrophic as daycare and state schooling has been) but it would also leave men with an identity crisis.

Women are oppressed in the west .... BY feminism. An ideology which tells women they have no role, no value, no unique contribution as women - and that self actualisation can only come from parodying masculinity, competing with men - while simultaneously playing the victim, acting like a spoilt child and making endless demands of men because men are the only people in society who are allowed to identify as being grown ups.

I don't think it's enough to refute feminism (although we can do that too), we have to point out that feminism IS the oppression of women. Nothing oppresses women more.