The difference between Putin v Oligarchs and Trump v Musk:

1) Putin could kill the oligarchs, Trump can't, therefor Trump has less leverage here

2) Putin's oligarchs were more transactional/corrupt and less ideological than the SV tech bro click is, and transactional people are easier to push around than committed ideologues are

3) People's 401ks didn't tank in Russia when their oligarchs got killed, whereas here if Trump throttles Tesla via going after Musk then markets feel the pinch (widespread pain vs concentrated pain)

4) Trump is (in theory at least) a lame duck, Putin was just getting started

There's probably a lot more big ticket differences, but these four alone make a night and day difference.