What bothers me is the insistence of making a public spectacle of oneself. If you like wearing a dog collar and walking around on all fours, there’s a club for that. If you like having sex in public, there are clubs for that too. When someone asks, “How are you?”, they don’t even want to know that. It’s a polite social convention. It’s not so much a moral issue as, again, the collapse of private/ public boundaries.