Hello Richard. I came to a similar insight in my high-conflict divorce about a decade and a half ago. Recommend you search for psychoanalyst Schoenewolf’s essay/chapter “Gender narcissism and it’s manifestations” regarding narcissism regarding biological gender as the basis for feminism and the potential impact of offspring sexuality and behaviour.(Can be found in his “Psychoanalystic Centrism” collected essays book).

Inquiry into covert narcissism will provide useful reference, as will papers delving into unconscious shame being part of narcissistic etiology. These women are unconsciously ashamed (or even hate) their gender. Any natural and harmonious social ordering that arises from differences in gender constitutes a major narcissistic injury to feminists, and they are hell bent to destroy such social and personal harmony as a result.

Due to narcissistic defenses, they are impervious to reason.