Thank you for writing this, Janice.

This experience is familiar to me. From a distance, I can only guess, but my guess is that the kind of women who would proudly write about these things in public (and who treat their sons this way) are much more likely to have a Cluster B personality disorder (borderline pd, narcissistic, etc.). I've come to believe that extremist philosophies of all sorts preferentially attract the character disordered.

Feminism reliably attracts a high percentage of Cluster B women, as an example.

What this does to boys is as terrible as you suspect, I can confirm from experience. Boys who've gone through it often end up having a broken relationship to their own maleness; they feel as though they were born bad. Being a man is bad. The only way to be a good man is to be enslaved to mother's concerns and to debase one's self and apologize.

There isn't a tenth of the attention paid to maternal abuse as there is to paternal, but it is just as damaging. In some ways, it's felt more so, as it excused, sometimes applauded, by society. Many can't even recognize that it's real. And if you bring it up being a man, the suspicion blinders come down on onlookers who see you as a likely "misogynist." It's the perfect narcissistic moral reversal: naming and objecting to maternal abuse is itself anti-woman.

This has left millions of us with deep wounds for life.