Yes. My point is that sure, I could make them angry, and then I lose family and friends, when the count is already low...in other words, of course I want them to wake up, but I cannot afford to be the one to do it. Also, they are VERY asleep, with no ears to hear. I could feel bad about this, but I choose to keep my tenuous hold on these relationships rather than be completely hated and thoroughly shunned.