Wow, that must’ve been quite a roller coaster. I wish my grandchild could have made it through without sticking to the trans identity, but that didn’t happen. My son refused to allow HRT during puberty Once they reached the edge of consent they chose to proceed so I’ve had to learn how to assimilate that. I still love the person regardless of what identity they’re choosing, but in these times, that’s a really hard place to be. We had no contact for two years until I could accept and speak supportively using the chosen pronouns.