The same people saying men don't feel pain like women would unironically say whites don't feel pain like blacks, and that straights don't feel pain like gays.

What theyre really saying is "male/white/straight pain is worthless compared to female/non-white/gay pain" The wokes value the the lives and wellbeing of the "victim" groups over that of the "oppressor" groups. In other words, they're supremacists. And you're right, it's bs.