I call my doctor and dentist by their first name. I think it does help to equalize the relationship. A while back I realized I am an adult who can decide what will and will not be done to me at the doctor's office. It was the day a dermatologist in the Florida Keys asked me who the doctor was (him or me) and then proceeded to do what I asked him not to. You either have control of yourself or you yield it. No complaining afterward. Most things are not an emergency. Go home and do your homework and then go back and respectfully ask questions. Just like you would treat any other consultant. Be your own best advocate.