I got that "I respect your choice" line more times than I could count when I was hospitalized a year ago. Faux-respect but implicit judgment.

Most of the time that was as far as it went, but one doctor wanted to harangue me about it IN THE EMERGENCY ROOM. I was weak, drifting in and out of consciousness, feverish, with an oxygen tube in my nose, and he was literally telling me - the actual words - that it was "not smart" and "selfish to your family" that I hadn't received the injection.

If only I could remember his name and go back to the emergency room and confront his sorry ass a year later after everything that has happened and been learned since.