I remember one male idiot saying "You made your bed, now lie in it". With a snicker. So much for support from other men. Speaking about "it" even to men who have suffered themselves is an opportunity to get stabbed in the back.

There was an account I read of a slave (1800s) planning to run away to Canada who said he would never speak of his plans to other slaves because he feared betrayal from "those who were unaware of their condition".