For me the realisation came from Melanie Phillips in her late 1990s book "Sex Change Society". Melanie was on the "left" and had in fact written about the Suffragettes. Her book was of course not about literal sex changes, this was before that had become modern magic, but about feminisms influence in the civic and political life of the UK. She characterised feminism as an ideology of the adolescent and perpetually adolescent as it fell apart as soon as one started to think seriously about partnering with a Male and even more so trying for, having, nursing and nurturing children, and became a part of an expanding set of relationships of family and kin. She pointed out how many prominent feminists were childless, single or lesbian with little knowledge of actual men and had "writing" jobs with plenty of time to campaign. So many in this country in the nineteenth and twentieth century were the spouse or partner of a well to do man (Mr. Pankhurst was for instance a prominent Barrister ) and had servants as well as no actual job. In their gilded boredom they has the time and freedom prove the adage that the devil makes work for idle hands.