I think it is easy to forget that across swathes of the population people live remarkably traditional lives, and those who dont, aspire to live in much that way. I see some differences in the "post industrial " city I live in. Mainly in younger families both having to work full time rather than the preferred "one and a half " that held away for decades. However there is little confusion about what gender roles should be and that males are providers and child and home are feminine. Now in the University areas and fashionable "professionals" suburbs it's different. But in a working class city the main impact of feminism is felt when people have to deal with officialdom, generally for most that is relatively rare. Which is why I guess our political elite hate the working class, even the party which was founded to support working men and women. I think that people men and women are genuinely surprised by the sorts things that they discover if they do have to deal with any branch of officialdom.