"these people are literally admitting that they have no self control or self possession and that they require the rest of the world to “ally” with them to make it all OK. it’s an admission that they are neither autonomous nor adult. it is always you and not they who must change, you and not they who must accommodate.

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Ultimately, you can bitch and moan about how life is unfair all you want, but in the end you're left with the same choice -- suck it up and do it, or never get anywhere. And sooner or later, people will be tired of holding you up........especially if you're always talking about how morally superior you are and how you would be successful if only XYZ.