I mean, you can't identify as a woman if you are a man, no matter how you slice it... You can... not like masculine stereotypes? Or prefer some aspects of femininity? That's all gender means... (I appreciate your efforts to challenge him on this — this is a large part of my frustration with this whole debate: the 'gender' word is confusing to people, so I wish we just wouldn't use it so much, though I suppose it's a bit too late for that!)