There is a paper by Barbara Leckie, "Double-Edged Sword of Exclusion and Rejection." Girls Bullying Behaviours and Peer Relationships", what struck me was the similarities between the bullying behaviour of school girls and that of nurses.

I will have to look up "Warriors and Worriers" but you raise an interesting point about the victim mentality, I wonder if this is used to stimulate the protective reaction from men, men who are the rescuers.

There is the Karpman drama triangle of Victim, Rescuer and Persecutor.