I know exactly what you are talking about, Janice! I suffer from stage fright as well. It has been my experience that the anxiety never goes away, you just learn to manage it, and the only way to manage it is by doing. I've also heard all the advice--just imagine you're among friends, imagine the audience in their underwear, etc.--none of it works, not for me at least. In fact I was just thinking about this as a musician friend of mine is hosting a local open mic night and sent me an invite via Facebook. The minute of think of it the anxiety suddenly emerges. I still plan to go, of course, you gotta keep fighting ...