This is from Downton Abbey, set in 1924. The feminist agenda will tell you we are "new" and different now, and attitudes from this era are antiquated.

They won't say that about the flapper movement - which was essentially hookup culture in the same way it is today - but they will say it about using masculine and feminine energy language, which is timeless, but has been captured and labeled as a thing of the past.

This is precisely the language I teach in my book. "You have every right to say what you think ___."

Followed by a statement to open negotiation, "however it causes me to feel____."

In a case of sharp or high conflict, when she is hurt, sometimes that negotiation part is better left for another time, as we see in this case.

Validating a man's right to say what he thinks and removing yourself burns conflict off very fast, grants her the space to feel and repair with God, and leaves him to himself - it essentially hands him back his garbage.

The story of these characters is that they are very much in love and he cherishes her brilliant mind. His dismissal of her eye for art here was unkind and unjust, sparked by his anger, and she exercises her right to demonstrate that it hurt. This allows a cooling period so that the next exchange reduces or extinguishes the conflict completely.

Just remember - the feminist agenda claims this hearty masculine/feminine complementary dynamic is "antiquated" but 1924's flapper hookup culture is not?

If the feminist agenda that dismisses this harmonious complementary dynamic and validates only the flappers who ushered in the “progress” that has left women to grow old alone, I get to validate the dynamics that kept them married and surrounded by love and children and grandchildren.