Asking the right question is more important than the answer

The main key to any divination practice, I find, is to ask the right question. Without taking a good look at the actual question we are asking, many of us tend to accidentally sidestep what we are truly, deeply, wanting information about.

The best example I have of this is the common question of, “Is this love interest the right one for me?” or “Is it in my highest good to date this person?” and perhaps they get a sign to go ahead only to have a super horrible relationship. This can lead us to doubt divination as a practice because it said to go ahead but it turned out to be hard on our hearts.

What is often missed is how Spirit interprets what is in our highest good, and the right one may be right for very different reasons from what we expect.

What we want may not always be what we need most for our soul to evolve. So yes.... this may be the "right" person to date – they are going to teach us all about personal boundaries, encourage us to stand up for ourselves, and show us exactly what we do not want in life. Very valuable indeed!

But what wasn't asked was, “Would a relationship with this person fill me with a sense of love and safety?” “Would we be a harmonious match romantically, domestically, and in our values?” “Will I feel respected and supported?” Usually, this is what querents are actually intending to ask.

You can see from that example just how important it is to carefully formulate the right question. Without the right question, we are receiving an answer that is perhaps not relevant to what we are truly intending. A useless question gives a useless answer. (Okay not really, cuz we can learn from everything – but you know what I mean.)

Over the years I have become a bit of a stickler around phrasing our divination questions, and our intentions or declarations too for that matter. Those who work with me come to know this quickly haha! I am always looking at the different angles Spirit might take to (mis)interpret our query - and I invite you to do the same.

Need help getting to the root of what you’re truly wanting to ask and re-phrasing your query? Let me know and let’s get to it!