“See: in order to move into the next phase of your development, you have to exhaust the possibilities of the previous phase. What you’re doing — what you’re capable of doing — has to be demonstrably not good enough. If it was good enough, you could just keep at it, it would still work. If that’s the case, there’d be no reason to change. Especially, there’d be no reason to undergo the ego-shredding life-collapsing change of dissolving your old mind and growing a new one. ‘Exhaust the possibilities of the previous stage’ sounds so clinical. Here’s what it really means: You have to try, really try — and face the fact that you have failed. You have to try again and again, in every way you know. You have to see clearly that this failure is fundamentally a part of who you are. ”