I respectfully disagree with the premise that we are not to judge, if in fact that is what your implying by: “only God can judge”

We are to judge rightly, other followers of Christ.(John7:24)

But I should be sure that I am not living in sin, confess & repent first.

I am not talking about outsiders that do not live according to Christ. God judges them.

We are called not finger wag and be nasty, rather IN LOVE for our brothers/sisters in Christ tell the truth and guide them back to right alignment with the will of God.

I believe that the feelings attached to word judgement has become the problem, not the spirit by which we are to correct one another.