One Trip, Eight Strangers, and a Friendship That Lasted a Year

The rise of Chai Pe Charcha

A year ago, just a week before Christmas, I wasn’t planning to start a tradition or build a chosen family. I was simply looking for company on a trip.

I had been thinking about visiting Solvang, a small Danish town about two hours from Hollister, one of those places you bookmark and keep postponing. I was part of BADF, and on a whim, I posted asking if anyone would be interested in joining. A few messages came in. Casual at first. No big expectations. Fast forward a few days later and suddenly eight of us had committed to a road trip.

From the Bay Area to Solvang and Something More

On the morning of December 24th, we drove from the Bay Area and Hollister, stopping at Hearst Castle, then heading down to Solvang. What started as a simple holiday trip turned into one of those rare experiences you don’t realize is special until much later.

We laughed. We talked. We wandered through Solvang’s streets, shared meals, took photos, and then ended the trip at Pismo Beach, watching the ocean like we had known each other for years.

At the time, we didn’t name it. We didn’t label it. We didn’t promise to “keep in touch.” But something quietly formed.

The Year That Followed: Real Friendship, Real Life

Friendship isn’t built on one perfect trip. It’s built in what comes after. Over the last year, Chai Pe Charcha the name we eventually gave ourselves has seen:

• Busy schedules

• Missed meetups

• Life changes

• Different opinions

• Quiet months and loud laughter

There were ups and downs. Moments when not everyone could show up. Times when life got heavy for one of us and lighter for another.

And yet, we kept coming back.

Not because we had to but because we wanted to.

From Travel Buddies to a Small Family

What started as a travel plan turned into:

• Lunches squeezed into workdays

• Dinners that lasted longer than planned

• Random check-ins

• Shared celebrations and hard conversations

We became a small family not perfect, not always aligned, but real.

A group where you don’t have to explain yourself.

A group where silence is okay.

A group where presence matters more than frequency.

Why This Friendship Matters

In adulthood, making and keeping friends is hard.

We’re busy. We’re tired. We carry responsibilities, careers, families, and emotional baggage. Most connections fade after the first meetup.

But every once in a while, something sticks.

Chai Pe Charcha reminds me that:

• Friendship can start from a simple post

• Strangers can become constants

• You don’t need history—just intention

• Community doesn’t have to be loud to be strong

One Year Later

Today marks one year since that spontaneous Christmas trip.

We’re still here.

Still bonding.

Still traveling.

Still meeting over food.

Still choosing each other.

What began as a holiday plan became a reminder that the best things in life often start unplanned and grow because people show up.

Here’s to the trips we’ve taken.

Here’s to the ones ahead.

And here’s to Chai Pe Charcha, a friendship I didn’t expect, but deeply cherish.

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