This is possibly my favorite thing you've written. So much respect for how you went into this, and I agree. It reminds me of something Bella Dane said about how confidence is built from competence and proof, which is why the thing that matters is investing in yourself, whether it's a workout or, like Nancy said, a pearl necklace. Either way, it signals that you are someone who cares and respects themselves, which is what really matters at the end of the day and is what creates the effect of being "dangerously beautiful"