I have a couple friends who are the dearest and nicest and kindest people but are Jewish or identify as Jewish and I cannot talk to them about Gaza. They live in a different ecosystem about that particular issue and it is one that strikes the core of their identities, so facts cannot get through.

Should I call them out? Sever the friendship? It won’t do any good. They have to come to it themselves.

Throughout my life I’ve also been friends with Chinese citizens who deeply deeply believe Taiwan should not exist because it is part of their national identify, and I imagine it’s something like that.