The app for independent voices
I have now spent years on dating apps and been on dozens of first dates. I’m sympathetic to both sides. I always pay (even though 85% of the time the woman tells me afterwards that we don’t have the ‘chemistry,’ which strikes me as fairly irrelevant when selecting a spouse to be honest) but I can certainly see his side.
Norms are changing and people should definitely be more FLEXIBLE. They should also try to maintain consistent worldviews. Women: if you think it’s important that women make equal pay to men (for unequal work, which is the implicit desire of many feminists) then expecting a man to pay, or to make more money than you, or be a provider, makes little sense.
This might seem inconsistent with your deepest romantic desires. I get that. Perhaps, in that case, you should re-examine the feminism…
I suspect that she didn’t REALLY like him. If he were more attractive or exciting I think she may have made a different decision.
