I think it will take a lot of healing work to get beyond all the shit patriarchy put in our sexuality. Until we clear this “demon” we will have to work through it. For me, right now, sex with myself is the healing - letting go of the stigma, noticing how orgasms repair my tension, becoming aware of deeper sensations, wondering if orgasm is part of healthy birthing technology, throwing off shame. Having fun!

I am not interested in BDSM. I think it’s patriarchal thing. Not saying people can’t consensually decide for themselves, I just think of bonobos, guessing they don’t go there….