A quick tip from one people-pleasing millennial musician to another:
Wait 24 hours before you respond to requests.
Do you want to do a show?
Can you help me with promo?
Are you free for this tour?
You: “I’ll get back to you tomorrow”
If you answer immediately, you’re likely giving the answer THEY want.
When you wait, you respond from your rational brain instead of your people-pleasing instincts.