This is a beautiful piece!❤️

Thanks for Sharing, Olamide.

I'd love to say something about this too cuz my God have I had enough of avoidant people 😂

Avoidance is real.

The fear is real.

The overwhelm is real.

But…

So is the damage they cause when they refuse to face it.

Because someone can be:

Hurt

Traumatized

Confused

…and still be accountable for how they treat people.

Awareness without ownership still leads to the same damage.

Understanding their language matters, but so does asking whether they are willing to understand yours too.

I understand the psychology, but at some point “they feel overwhelmed” cannot keep being the excuse. Yes, they are overwhelmed, but that does not justify leaving people confused, hurt, and emotionally damaged without explanation. If you know you pull away and hurt people, then the real growth is learning to communicate it, not leaving people to figure it out alone. Understand them, but they must also understand themselves and take responsibility. Understand yourself, take accountability, and don’t hurt people while hiding behind your patterns.