I call it unintentional neglect when referring to my childhood. What didn't happen is often more damaging than what did. "If a feeling arises and no one seems particularly interested in it, the simplest solution is to move on. Over time this becomes a habit so natural that it barely registers as a choice." This so resonates for me. I like the concept of internal signals. I know that I'm a good therapist because of my own CEN. And YES the book Running on Empty has been such a helpful book for me and several of my patients.