I love this. I’ve consumed pornography on so many levels, and what I understood when I was a child, coming from a ‘working class’ family was that it was taboo, seen as ‘something to be ashamed of’ and equally something of the ‘male’ preserve. Being British there was a culture in the 1970s that the ‘male gaze’ was driven into me from my father, ‘it will make you a man’..

Onwards to the video age, then the internet age where porn just became ‘free’ so I had a lackadaisical attitude towards it, it’s just there for me to consume, I never thought about it too deep.

Now in my 50s I still love the activity but still have the spectre of my father’s attitude hanging close over my shoulder… drenched in guilt.

Lorelei, thank you for this. I’m trying to get a deeper steer on how I feel, I owe it to myself to look further… I guess you could say I’m a work in progress.

Sorry for the ramble, I love everything you do, always have, always will.

Ax