Grief matters, love matters, you miss your Dad, you lost him sadly to dementia as I did mine. I’m sorry for your loss and glad for your love too. We don’t have red cardinals here but the little Willy wag tail with its fan tail in Australia and the even smaller fantail, the piwakawaka in Aotearoa New Zealand are also believed to be messengers from the other side and turn up at auspicious moments after a beloved person dies