Solid read, but from an outsiders point of view, there is a simpler dynamic going on as well: status coding. If women see a bunch of low value dudes joining the church, they’ll perceive the church as low value. The only way the low values could beat this is organizing effectively and getting to critical mass, then commanding status this way. Regardless, normie women need to see high status women at the church adopting these norms, and also high value men. Tomothee Chalomet converting publicly to “trad cath” or whatever would make it high status and therefore desirable as well. But lots of “incels” flocking to church is inherently going to repel secular women.