Hi there. This is the first time I'm reading one of your articles.

Breakups are tough, especially the ones you've sacrificed so much for, even friendships. The guilt and self blame you described seem to come from realising that you lost a part of yourself in a relationship where love may have clouded your judgement. It hurts even more when you look back and realise you acted in ways that were unlike your usual self.

Guilt is a very human emotion, but don't let it turn into endless self blame. What's done is done. You couldn't have known how things would end when you entered the relationship. None of us starts dating expecting to see shege.

I also love that you're seeing a therapist. It's encouraging to see you intentionally working through your trauma and childhood experiences. Personally, I think everyone can benefit from therapy, whether they've gone through a breakup or not.