Not on the theoretical question here because I'm no ethicist. I considered NOT making my kids go to church because I think that, if anything, churchgoing as children turns the off from religion. The boring goody-two-shoes Sunday school, religion as a means of social control enforcing parental authority, and the dullness of the whole business. I would never have gotten religion if I'd grown up with the kiddie version of it. In adolescence I was looking for what lots of my peers were, which I thought of as 'the spooky' or 'metaphysical thrills'. The exotic, the out-of-this-world, the escape from the ordinary. That's how I saw the church because I wasn't raised with it and why I joined.