Unity consciousness (of which there are ever increasing levels of) should be a natural state of being, unfortunately our society is not conducive to it's development, for many of the reasons you skillfully describe. Our society's ways of being steer us toward separateness, mine more than ours.

"Striving for unity is the sign that we are dwelling on empty". There's a truth in that. Unity is natural, striving can get in the way, though ultimately there are no rules.