That’s very true. The issue is that at this age you are vulnerable and take any attention as a positive even it’s potentially in a way that is detrimental.

As I have gotten older, I have understood that it’s wasn’t necessary proper attention but more of an objectification in most case. It’s something they control and try to shape to their taste.

I have looked at my past and now I understand very well why I had such visceral reaction to some of the women « caregivers « in my youth (in elementary school, there was two women so awful that I wonder how they were even allowed near children).