Please don’t forget those of us whose estranged child/sibling goes a step further than others in their cruelty. Instead of snubbing their noses and moving away, they do an even more cruel opposite. They say you are abusive or wrong, then choose that moment to move into your church, your town, pretend to be nice to you in front of your friends/extended family, then say and send cruel things behind the scenes. They start a smear campaign how you don’t “like” them - and old time friends and family believe them, because they see our discomfort in public! Classic abuse tactic. My sister and sociopath-like brother in law snubbed our family of origin church & community (which the rest of us still were actively part of) for years while we tried to help her be strong — until he realized he could destroy us completely by moving INTO our community while convincing our sister & nieces and nephews to turn their heads away when they walk by us in the pews! It seems the children are subject to abuse if they speak with or even smile at the aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents that they used to love. It so corrupt. It is so alarming and I feel helpless to stop their abuse. And the naive parishioners got it all wrong. So, we are now isolated, derided, and constantly cut out by everyone who used to make our lives full. It can get worse than a child leaving. They can return and abuse you.