But also, in particular with white evangelicalism, it’s discouraged to figure out how to discuss conflict from the perspective of one’s own feelings. Instead, it’s like there’s a playbook. As long as you stick to the playbook, then you are right. If you are right, then things are bound to work out. So, they judge the job they did as a parent by judging whether or not they did what they were told to do. If they followed the playbook, they were a good parent.
