Very nicely put, Indy, thank you! Who else is thinking along similar lines, at present? I have, for sure, but it would be good to know of others, as I suspect there are quite some number. Questions may be on the whole less prone to this mistake than data, but even so, a question, if it is not completely open, can still impose a frame — and it can feel like an inquisition if the frame of the one questioned is not the same as the one questioning.

Saying “this is the important question” is another form of claiming title. Similarly, “my perspective is more important than yours” — and while recognising the danger of that, still at the same time recognising that not all perspectives have the same value. How we value different perspectives is part of our own perspective. Oh, to be open to change, and not stuck in a trauma-derived pattern of defensiveness!