YES! I keep wanting to write about awareness and consciousness. Adyshanti, Alan Watts and Sam Harris. Sam's app is SO fantastic. Cory and I often drive around listening to Watts talk and he's the most original thinker I've ever heard. It feels so freeing to know that I am not my ego, you know? Just letting go of all the stories and existing. It's the one thing I wish I could talk to Serge about. Letting go is the only way out, for sure. Some months I think I have it mastered and then I slip bac…
Yes, the negative bias thing is so real. I have a decent co-parenting relationship with my kids' dad, but it has become strained because he moved to a different city recently. He's only a little more than an hour away, but I have a lot of feelings of anger because I have a hard time accepting his justification for moving (feels like he created the situation that made him want to move by his bad choices), he is not prioritizing his boys and being there for them on a day-to-day basis, and his mov…
I do. Sometimes I need to let some months go by until I dip in - as in this case when he wrote the Henry thing in Feb but I didn't see it until now - but ultimately I end up reading everything he writes if it's about the kids. I'm not sure if it's the mentally healthy approach or not but I am compelled.
So, so glad you're here sharing your thoughts. Wish I could come to your husband's old bar and have a night with you! And fuck yes for you sharing the bad stuff you've done! I have been physically violent with men who never struck me. I've also been hit by a man. So I understand the tightrope you're walking when you're trying to engage in the very nuanced convo of women as legitimate victims and women who exploit a movement.
I guess the thing that keeps me from taking a solid side in the Johnny/…
You make total sense! I agree, that we as women are constantly excusing or passifying male anger and it is exhausting. Someone very close to me is in counselling for their blind male rage - borne out of a childhood raised as 'this is what masculinity is.' Men are usually more physically dominant than women so we fear physical violence in a way that I think most men don't (with women). I also agree - the whole 'tortured artist' thing is such bullshit - you don't need to be hammered/stoned out o…
"I'm over unexceptional men and their entitlement. Trump brought those mucksuckers back to the surface like a massive school of Asian carp." <<<-----DYING. Best sentences.
Unexceptional men and their entitlement. God, yes. And that's just it, right? The entitlement. I'M ANGRY. SEE ME BE ANGRY. It would be so fucking boring if it wasn't so terrifying.