Yes, Greg, but "politeness and civility" ARE respect. I wasn't referring to anything more than that. And much more is possible. Love, for example, is something else entirely. In a specifically theological context, Christ commanded his followers to strive for a particular kind of love (agape). which refers to a freely chosen of self-sacrificial love. But that's an ultimate (divine) standard, not the minimal standard that we all depend on to make communities possible.