Grieving people, whether they are Erica Kirk or the many people in our everyday lives, are hard to witness in a culture that is terrified of death and usually pretends it’s a weird, uncomfortable outlier. Anita’s right: unless we’ve been there ourselves, the rest of us struggle to be okay with the grieving among us, their tears and their sorrow, and even their joy (sometimes people think a griever shouldn’t smile or laugh). And yet they need good, compassionate neighbors and friends. Because we all will be in that club at one time or another.